Tips For Building a Connection With Your Teenager

In Family Matters, Parenting, Teens | |

Being a parent takes a lot of effort and energy.  Giving everything that it takes to fully commit to raising another human being means that you must be willing to work through the good and the bad times. Unfortunately a lot of “bad times” can occur during the teen years.  Since this is a period of testing limits and boundaries in the beginning the stages of adulthood, it can bring out the worst in anyone.

Some parents are trying so desperately to understand where their teens are coming from that they wind up pushing them away altogether.

It takes a lot of work to understand another human, particularly when they come from an entirely different generation. Therefore, if you’re willing to put your whole heart into it and commit to building a relationship, then it can be done.

Here are some of the most practical ways to build a connection with your teen.

Take An Interest In Their Interests

Building a connection means paying attention.  In order to have a friendship with your teen, you should take note of what they are interested in.  Be willing to delve into it a bit yourself. Whether it’s playing video games or reading novels, making an effort to be a part of what they also love can be a huge opportunity for growing closer.  They will appreciate the effort on your part even if you’re no good at whatever the activity is!

Practice Patience

It takes an enormous amount of patience to be a parent at any age of your child’s life.  However, the teen years require a unique amount.

There are all sorts of emotions ranging and challenges which come up.  It’s enough to make even the calmest of people get emotional. However, unfortunately for you, you’re the adult, and it’s up to you to be the mature one.  Even when it’s challenging it’s up to your to serve as the example.

Don’t Be Overly Critical

You were once a teenager too, and your parents probably scoffed at your radical ideas and fashion too.  You probably didn’t like it very much, did you?

It’s important not to turn into our own parents who may have been overly critical and belittling during this delicate time.  Instead, be encouraging and motivate them.

Prioritize Time Together

Setting time aside for you and your teen to spend quality moments as friends is an integral part of nurturing your relationship as a parent and child.

Same as build any friendship, the time you spend with them shouldn’t just be scheduled when it’s convenient for you, but also for them.  Try to set aside at least 2 hours a week together to do something engaging.