When You’re Thinking of Adoption



In Family Matters, Parenting | |

There are a few reasons the very thought of adopting a child comes to mind which go beyond not being able to conceive as a result of some biological complications suffered by one or both partners. Sometimes you just fall in love with a child who doesn’t have parents and discover some parental instincts which transcend biological mechanisms, in which case it really should be easy to go ahead and adopt, but isn’t all that easy. You have to be prepared for a very bumpy ride, but ultimately if you have good intentions then you should eventually manage to secure legal guardianship rights to raise the child you want to adopt.

So here’s what you need to consider when you’re thinking of adoption:

It’s a lifelong commitment to parenting

One of the things you need to be prepared for as someone seeking to adopt is the natural progression of any relationship between a parent and their child or children. If you already have children then at least you have an existing reference point to draw on, otherwise it’s very important to acknowledge the potential dynamics of going ahead with the adoption.

When the child rebels or appears to be ungrateful at times, remember that this happens even with biological children, so that should never be allowed to sever the bonds that you would have naturally developed by that time.

Factors that will help your case

Some factors which would help your case for getting approved to adopt include if you’re already a parent and have experience raising kids, your financial standing, your relationship with the law, and your intentions for wanting to adopt in the first place. It’s an extremely delicate matter and for the most part all parties involved fully understand that adoption is a positive event which has more benefits to the community than it would have negatives. Be prepared to provide proof od extenuating circumstances as that may very well be required.

Seeking the counsel of a legal expert

Remember that although you likely have genuinely good intentions when contemplating adoption, this otherwise positive social practice is indeed open to abuse. This is why you’d have to jump through all manner of fire-hoops in order to ultimately be awarded parental rights and keep those rights, but good intentions alone probably won’t suffice. You need to legally prove that you are capable of fulfilling your responsibilities to the adopted child, a process which can be helped by your consultation with legal professionals such as Speaks Family Law, but that’s not all.

What makes up the equation is the discretion of the social-working professional who is tasked with gauging your intentions and often these highly trained and skilled professionals are adept at doing just that. Honesty is the best policy and you should make them aware of the heart-tugging reason why you want to adopt in the first place. Speak from the heart and let them know of the very moment the idea came to you, paying special attention to the triggering event and how it made you feel.